The Color Question

Simone started asking questions about race when she was 3, so I knew Nadia would soon have questions of her own. I should not be surprised by such questions. They just keep showing up when I am not ready for them. It was reading time, and we were all in the room. Simone was reading […]

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Interracial Marriage By The Numbers

The Pew Research Center released these statistics just in time for Loving Day 2010. Loving Day celebrations commemorate the anniversary Loving v. Virginia (1967), the landmark U.S. Supreme Court decision that legalized interracial marriage. I will be spending Loving Day sans husband at the Mixed Roots Film and Literary Festival. Where will you celebrate? 1 out of 7 […]

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My Children's Keeper

When I was a little girl, I couldn’t seem to get anything right. I was skinny. I dressed white. I loved school. I acted white. I had long hair. I was stuck up. I lacked rhythm. I wore glasses. I “switched” when I walked. I talked white. Black girls picked so many fights with me I […]

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My Children’s Keeper

When I was a little girl, I couldn’t seem to get anything right. I was skinny. I dressed white. I loved school. I acted white. I had long hair. I was stuck up. I lacked rhythm. I wore glasses. I “switched” when I walked. I talked white. Black girls picked so many fights with me I […]

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Not The Nanny

I was pleasantly surprised to see an essay by Veronica Chambers about mistaken identity in the June issue of Essence. Chambers is the mother of a beautiful 2-year-old little girl, who looks a lot like her white father. As a result, Chambers has been mistaken as her nanny, not her mother. It’s not the typical essay […]

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Millennials

Attitudes about race change as younger generations come along, according to The Pew Research Center. Millennials, or those 18 to 29, said they would be fine if someone in their family married someone of another race. What interesting is the numbers held steady regardless of the race or ethnicity. That means Simone and Nadia are more […]

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Conversations

I weighed in on the Jill Scott matter on NPR’s Tell Me More blog. The interracial relationships post below has gotten some good comments. I, for one, am glad we can have this discussion.

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Simone, Cars, and Race

I wish Simone had not made the observation. Brown people, she told me, drive old cars. I looked at Ken with a raised eyebrow. He was not surprised because Simone had told him about her observation a few weeks earlier. When he relayed her message to me, I thought about one of my biggest fears […]

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Conversations

Soon after Simone was born, my maternal grandmother told me how she felt. “You didn’t do nothing for yourself,” she said. “Well, Mom was light-skinned,” I said. “Light-skinned? That child ain’t light-skinned. She’s Caucasian.” “Don’t you think she has my eyes and nose?” “Nah, she is the spitting image of Ken, like he went, ‘puh,’” […]

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