Why do we have to go to bed?
So that you will be rested in the morning.
Can we have some chocolate?
No, it’s time for bed.
Can we read one more book?
No. It’s time to go to bed.
Just call me The Enforcer. I don’t like saying no. It’s what I do as a parent. It comes with the territory. Too many yeses could lead to a lack of discipline. A lack of discipline could lead to a lack of drive. A lack of drive could lead to Simone and Nadia never growing up and leaving the house. And we want them to grow up and leave the house.
On any given day, I say “no” early and often. They need to hear the word. They need to know they can’t have everything they want when they want it.
That said, I am a softy compared to my parents. They wouldn’t even entertain the conversation above. Maybe that’s why some consider today’s parents downright wimpy. Parenting is hard work. There’s no pay. In fact, Ken and I are in negative figures. You can’t even bank on appreciation, because it may never come. So, many parents compromise and compromise and compromise. Before they know it, they don’t have any control. Others get tired of doing hand-to-hand combat with their children. I fully accept that every child is different and has different needs, but I am determined to be THE parent.
Being the parent will look differently as Simone and Nadia grow up. Right now, it means going to bed at a decent hour. What about you? What do you have to enforce? Be sure to tell us the ages of your children.