Judging by some of the emails I receive, I should be worried about how my children will be perceived, labeled, and categorized in society.

Well, I’m not, for two reasons.

First, I believe many, if not all, of those perceptions, labels, and categories will disappear as more and more children like Simone and Nadia grow up. They won’t matter and will lose their pull and their relevance.

I understand why some people want to keep such distinctions. They have prospered from them. Putting people in little boxes provides some level of comfort. I’m over here; you’re over there. It’s always been done that way, and it works for them. If you can’t put people into corners, it changes the race game. We’re all right here. It makes it more difficult to discriminate. I think that’s one of the reasons why some people are so uncomfortable with the term “biracial.” It doesn’t fit into any of the nation’s preconceived boxes about race.

Second, if I have my way, Simone and Nadia won’t care what others think or say about them. They will know themselves and their history and will shrug when someone tries to put them in a box. If they and other children don’t give power to such classifications, the classifications will no longer matter.

The most common compliment the girls receive is how beautiful they are. Strangers don’t say what beautiful black children or white children or Asian children or Hispanic children. They just call them beautiful. That gives me a bit of hope.

What do you think?

4 thoughts to “No Worries

  • Motherto3

    Hello, I totally agree w/ the classifications falling away- and they have been slowly over the last few decades. It’s easy to get discouraged and focus on the negative, but there is so much positive progress going on. As blessed as we are in the US, it seems like we are a little behind the times as far as trying to separate people into “boxes”. I myself, don’t even use the term “race” anymore, since we are one race. I say that I am bi-ethnic, which fits so much better. Love your blog by the way, and have been reading for the past several months!

  • Blanc2

    I have thought about this a lot with my kids. They will doubtless encounter a few people in their lifetimes who try to make them “choose a side.” However, one hopes that this comes after they reach adulthood (perhaps in college — the campus militant, for example) and by then are strong enough in themselves that they can shrug off this sort of noise.

  • Mrs. K

    Thanks for sharing. This is encouraging to read, especially being a future mother of biracial children.

  • Keya

    I’m tired of the little boxes and categories we have to be. My kids are American and that’s it.

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