I am the mean parent. I am the one who devises most of the rules. I am the one who insists on following the rules. And when the rules aren’t followed, I am the one who has something to say about it. Why is that?

Could it be race?

Am I applying to Simone and Nadia what I was taught as a child? You’re black, which means you have to work twice as hard as other children.

Does it have anything to do with black women raising their daughters and loving their sons? You’re a black woman, so you need to learn how to be self-sufficient and self-disciplined.

Or, is it a difference in parenting personalities? If I am the bad cop, then Ken has to be the good cop.

What do you say?

5 thoughts to “Race and Parenting

  • Lagunatic

    It’s not a race thing, in my house it’s a gender thing. I’m the LAW here too. DH is a push-over. There are times when my daughter, son AND husband are all ‘in the corner’ 😀

    However, I am harder on my son than my daughter. But, I think it’s because he hasn’t mastered the art of coy like his sister has 😉

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  • Ernessa from 32 Candles

    Right now, I’m the bad cop, b/c Betty is a baby, but my husband is very German so-to-speak. I think that as she gets older, he’ll become very concerned with instilling discipline and follow-through. I’m not a child, and he’s always on me about follow-through, so I doubt Betty stands a chance.

    I don’t think of it as good cop/bad cop, but different cops for different situations.

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  • Blanc2

    It’s situational and it will ebb and flow over time. Also, as somebody else noted, dads tend to be harder on sons and mothers tend to be harder on daughters.

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  • Kristen

    I am definitely the heavy in my house, too!

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  • Maritza

    I have to say that it’s the same at my place. I am the enforcer while hubby is the “it’s ok baby” guy. Our little one definitely knows she can get away with more when daddy is home. I dont think it has to do with race at all.

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